Let me tell you a true story about a girl who started hating who she was at age 3. By age 6, she was self injuring. By age 8, the self injury had escalated to sexual self injury. She started drinking in junior high, became anorexic, had no friends, fantasized about dying and was depressed and suicidal.
She absolutely hated being female for as long as she could remember. She hated her body. Once puberty arrived, she started wearing boys clothing because she didn’t want to become a woman. She wanted her “titties” and “c*nt” removed (her terminology) and loathed bleeding every month. She couldn't wait to be old enough to be sterilized so she'd have no chance of being a mother.
If a “woke” school counselor, administrator or teacher got their hands on this girl, what do you think would happen to her once they heard how much she hated her body and herself?
Based on the insanity we're seeing in America right now, I think we all know the answer.
More than likely, regardless of the girl's age, an authority figure at her school would attempt to convince her that she really wanted to be a boy. Then, with or without her parents' permission or even their knowledge, they would start attempting to turn her into one. They would tell her if she was only a boy, she would feel so much better and all of her problems would magically disappear. They would try to get her to change her name, clothing and appearance to align with her new “identity” and tell her never to tell her “toxic” parents.
If trying to convince her did not work, they might try bullying or getting other students to bully her. They might shame her for not going along with their “suggestions”, a.k.a. manipulation. They might expose her to literature to show her that it's “normal” not to like the gender she was born with. The pressure would continue until the girl broke down to their wishes. Drugs, puberty blockers and male hormones would likely follow. The people who pushed this girl into this “transition” would rejoice at their success.
However, do you know what not one of them would do at any point in the process?
No one would they bother to ask her why she hated being female or why she hated her body that much.
Those are very important questions to ask, but I can almost guarantee they won't be asked by any public school system in place in America right now.
Asking the Right Question
Had anyone bothered to ask, this is what they would have discovered: the girl in this story hated herself and her body because an adult that was very close to her family began sexually molesting her at age 3. She hated being female because the abuser only molested her, not her brother or any other male child she knew. In her mind, she thought that if she was not a girl, her abuser would not have touched her. That's how a young child's mind works. Her abuser also blamed her for the abuse, which happens in virtually every case of molestation, and this added to the self-hatred.
Of course there are other reasons a child may hate themself or their body, but my money is on abuse.
Do you think the reaction of “woke” school officials would change upon hearing this, or do you still think they would go on with their plans to convince this girl that she was born the wrong gender?
I'm not the gambling type, but I'm willing to lay money on the table that they would keep right on with their agenda.
It goes without saying that a reasonable adult would take steps to separate this girl from her abuser and ensure she received help. However, the “woke” fools that are perpetrating this insanity think that only their solution is the right one.
Well, they were and are wrong. Every sane adult knows this.
It bothers me – no, it flat out infuriates me – that children are being used to push an adult's sick (and very wrong) ideas of gender.
It enrages me that no one is looking into why a kid might hate themselves and their gender before manipulating them into a life-changing event.
It sickens me that a child might be forced into “transitioning” because of self-hatred stemming from abuse. Not only does the child get molested by an adult sexually, but then goes on to be molested a second time by a system that needs to end NOW.
In essence, that kid is being punished for being sexually abused and that is horrendous.
This Needs to End
Why am I so angry about this? Because the girl in that story was me and I shudder to think about what would have happened to me had I been in public school now.
But more than that, I am furious because I'll bet that children who SHOULD get help for being abused are getting manipulated instead for an adult's own sick pleasure. That's called child abuse, by the way, and I don't want to see any child suffer at the hand of perverts.
I am writing this not to gain sympathy for my past, but rather because I am seeing an unsettling, unnatural, and downright sick desire by a number of school teachers, counselors and administrators attempting to convince children as young as kindergarten that they were born the wrong gender. There are too many stories of attempted manipulation of youth, schools withholding information from parents, and making up “facts” to support the narrative, all with the goal of introducing a sexual concept to someone who is clearly too young to understand it. It's called grooming a child.
How to Help
If you have a child or know of one that thinks they are the wrong gender, please do that child a favor and get very involved. Find out who is putting this idea into their head and why. This in NOT a natural thing and someone has given them that idea. It's important to know who that person is.
If that can't be uncovered, do your best to find out WHY they think they are the wrong gender. Self hatred is a serious red flag that something is very wrong in that child's life. Children do not instinctively hate themselves or their bodies. Looking at WHY a child hates themselves is absolutely critical, and I don't believe for one second that a child hates their body or gender without something having happened to cause that hatred.
You should be aware that children will not often disclose sexual abuse. Pedophiles threaten children and children will believe the threats, whether credible or not. Pedophiles never take any responsibility their actions and will project their own shame and guilt onto the child. The child picks up on this shame because children instinctively know what is happening to them is wrong. Abusers often tell children that they are sick, evil and wrong because they “enjoy” the extra attention the pedophile is giving them. Children believe these lies because they believe adults, especially adults they know, love and trust. Abusers always – and I do mean always - try to make the person they are harming responsible for the abuse. The younger a child and the more sensitive the child is, the easier it is to convince them that they are to blame.
If you see signs of abuse in a child, which could include self injury, self-hatred, harming of animals, unusual irrational fears or behaviors, knowledge of sexuality at an age where they shouldn't have it, sexual acting out, destruction of their personal property, extreme depression, unexplained anger, or just a sense that something is really off with that child, please get them help. Please. From one survivor to one who believes something is off, please help them.
And please, don't ever let anyone convince the child that their gender is the problem. It's not.
Don't let them get abused by a sick system that tells them that it is.
If you are an adult who was molested as a child, there is help out there. Check Survivors of Incest Anonomous at https://siawso.org/ Although it’s a 12 step program, it’s not necessary to be relious at all to get some benefit. There is even free phone meetings. Many more resources are availble out there… no one needs to go this alone.
I found your substack linked to your name & comment on C & C. I will be sharing your profound and deeply moving story. Thank you. I will be asking the questions. May God bless you and save our helpless children.
Thank you for a clear and honest story. Thank you for being vulnerable. I’m sorry.